is there a way to make this work with the standalone tor? or is the browser part necesarry to get this cookie?

I acutally managed to figure it out myselve this should maybe be added to the docs
to make the standalone tor version create the control_auth_cookie one must navigate to
C:\Users\%USERNAME%\AppData\Roaming\tor
and there create a file name " torrc " and in it add the line " CookieAuthentication 1 "
then restart tor, it will then create the control_auth_cookie file in the same folder

ControlPort 9051 might also need to added to the torrc file and the port inside DarkMX adjusted since the default ports seems to be  9050 for the proxy